“What to ACTUALLY Say (and NOT Say) to New Parents (From a Mom Who’s Been There)”

What NOT to Say:

1. “It gets better/easier!”

   • For many, it doesn’t get easier—it just changes. False hope isn't helpful.

2. “You must be so in love already!”

   • Instant bonding doesn’t always happen. Normalize that love often grows over time.

3. “You’ll bounce right back!”

   • Unrealistic body and recovery expectations.

What to Say Instead:

1. “How can I best support you right now while you recover?”

   • Specific offers: meals, childcare for older kids, household chores.

2. “Your feelings are valid. It’s okay if it doesn’t feel perfect.”

   • Normalize postpartum depression/anxiety and the use of SSRIs or other treatments. Openly discuss mental health without stigma.

3. “It’s okay if bonding feels slow. Your love will grow, and that’s completely normal.”

   • Genuine encouragement without pressure or judgment.

Don't forget:

• Reiterate that true support is authentic, practical, and stigma-free.

• Encourage readers to be thoughtful and mindful in supporting new parents.